I hope we can all agree this is enough

Last year my morning routine included 20 or so loud, kind, self-determined eighth graders smack dab in the middle of transitioning from children to young adults. As February approached, we spent more and more time test prepping and usually, I would snag a few from the chaotic classroom and into the more pleasant refuge of the library. This was usually accompanied by a lot of grumbling and take a few bribes of Taki’s  to get my group going, but once we started it was usually a good time figuring out our science problems for the day in between snacks and talking about our days.

One day, when I pulled only one of my students, I noticed a  lag in his steps and at first teased him to speed up. When I expected smart remarks, I only received heavy breathing and a small moan. We gradually walked into the library, deserted this morning. As I coaxed questions from him, I soon learned that my adult looking child student had been shot at least two times in his ankle.

This wasn’t the first time that my students had come in with gun related wounds. Some of our elementary schoolers missed a week of school after being shot in a drive by earlier that year. On another day one of my students tearfully told me that the night before her cousin had answered a door and received a bullet to her forehead by her children’s father. A month before school started Alton Sterling, a black man that some of them knew and called “Mr. Sterling,” was murdered by two police officers. And on, and on. 

I don’t know what the answer is when it comes to gun violence. If I could blink three times and say “bibbidi bobbidi boop” I would have every gun disappear, but that’s obviously not an answer nor possible. Following the school shooting in Parkland, Florida on February 14th, I’ve been trying to come up with one, find my opinion for the fix all, which I haven’t. But here is what I have found and what I do know:

On gun laws-

  • The process to purchase and buy a gun is dependent by state laws. Here is a link where you can look into your state’s gun laws. For my current state, Louisiana, there are a few options for me to obtain a firearm. I can make a deal with a friend/neighbor/stranger, offer a fair price, and the gun is mine. Legally. The second way is for me to go to a store where I can purchase a rifle, shotgun, or handgun (in Louisiana I need a permit to carry a handgun, but can purchase one without it). They send my information to the Bureau of Alcohol, Tobacco, Firearms, and Explosives for a record check which files through he FBI National Instant Criminal Background Check System and shortly, I can leave the store with my most recent purchase.
  • The AR-15, the gun that has been used at many mass shootings, is one of the most popular and easy to get. It was made as a lighter replica of the M-16, a military gun that is not available for civilian use. The original manufacturer created the AR-15 for military use. 
  • According to the National Shooting Sports Foundation in 2013, there were between 5 million and 8.2 million assault weapons in circulation on the United States. However, after each mass shooting an increase in gun sales is seen- meaning that that number has likely increased. Since most state governments  do not require long guns to be registered, there is no way to completely tell how many assault rifles are currently in circulation or where they area. AR-15’s, specifically, though a semi- automatic weapon, has the ability to become automatic with a kit (which can be purchased easily, in my research I came across a few), and can use a magazine with as many as 100 bullets, as seen in the Aurora and Las Vegas shootings in 2012 and 2017.

On victims-

  • According to the New York Times, since Sandy Hook in 2012 there have been over 239 school shootings; this study counted incidents where any number of people were injured or killed, not just four or more which defines a mass shooting. 438 people (educators, students, children) have been shot, 138 of whom were killed.
  • In 2015, 3,519 women and girls were killed by homicide, making homicide the fifth leading cause for women between 18 and 44 in the US. Women are additionally 16 times more likely to be killed by a gun in the US than in any other developed nation.
US Gun Statistics collected from “The Week

On those who are responsible for mass shootings-

  • One of the first things that I commonly see in response to shootings, regardless of the size, is to say that we need mental health reform and that the shooter was mentally ill. First, yes we desperately need better policies regarding mental health, but there has never been a found connection between mental health and shootings. Dr. James Alan Fox, a criminologist at Northeastern University, in response to these claims stated, “There’s not really a correlation, we like to think that these people are different from the rest of us. We want a simple explanation and if we just say they’re mentally ill, case closed. Because of how fearful dangerous and deadly their actions are, we really want to distance ourselves from it and relegate it to illness.”
  • While mental illness has not been a link between shooters, there are some things that can link them together. One of these factors is a history of domestic violence. In an analysis performed by the gun-violence prevention group, Everytown for Gun Safety, it was found that between 2009 and 2017 “33% of shooters had a reported history of violence against women.” The same study additionally showed that between 2015 and 2017, in over 50% of mass shootings, one of the causalities included an intimate partner or family member.
  • The final point I want to make about many of the mass shooters is what you can see by face value– between 1982 and 2015 over 64% of mass shootings have been committed by white men*. To compare, according to CNN, “black people committed close to 9%… while Asians were responsible for around 9%…”*I will never show pictures of those who commit murders because I refuse to glorify them. The Daily Wire wrote a really great article explaining more if anyone is interested! 

This issue is huge, it isn’t a quick fix. We need to move our conversations forward from mental illness and start addressing the much less desired topic of toxic white masculinity. We need to dissect the messages we are sending our young boys about power, entitlement, and violence. We need to talk about access to guns and how we regulate and distribute them. We need to make it more difficult for people to purchase military weapons than to purchase a car/rent an apartment/buy a dog/watch a movie. We need reform. We need to decide if we care more about the thousands of children, men, and women that will continue to die if we continue to be idle on this topic. We need to love people more than guns.

Contact your congressmen.

Listen to survivors.

March on the 24th.

 

YAYA Glass Blowing

This weekend I accomplished something on my bucket list, taking a glass  blowing class!

I signed up for a lesson at YAYA (Young Aspirations Young Artists Inc.). They’re a really great organization that originally started as an after school program in New Orleans for high school students. Its purpose was to help students achieve academically as well as creatively through the different art programs. They also now go into schools in Orleans and Jefferson Parishes where current and previous art students teach workshops.

The class that I signed up for was a 30 minute time slot where I was given hands on instructions on how to make a glass bowl, vase, or pumpkin. I chose to make a small vase, as did Christian. The first step was to choose our colors, which at first reminded me of fishbowl gravel.

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Can you see the resemblance? Also, in the top right you can see three example pieces  that we could choose to mimic shape- wise. I went with two shades of blue and white while Christian selected the ‘rainbow’ colors in the far right bin.

Next, we actually started! I spent a lot of time spinning a pole where the melted glass was connected to one one side and transferring it from the table to mold it and back to the fire to help secure the mold. (If that makes sense! These next few paragraphs have my trying to explain some of what we did, but it is by no means something I have a lot of knowledge about.)

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Here is a picture of my piece as it was just starting out. We had to transfer a big blob of melted glass onto a pole and after it was in a circular shape, I literally blew it in order to create a bubble in the middle which would create the vase. For some reason I had never actually thought that glass blowing required you to blow. But here pictured is the pole connected to tubing connected to a small whistle- like object that I blew into.

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Here Christian is rotating their piece to help keep the round shape and keep it centered. Rolling it back and forth like this kept the glass from slipping into a different shape. Also, it is hard to see here, but their glass kept coming out of the stove in shades of oranges and reds from how hot the glass was! So cool.

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After rolling our pieces, we brought them back into the stove to secure the shape, but only for a few seconds at a time. All of the stoves are kept at a mild 2120 degrees!

Following the class we were told that it would take about 15 hours before our pieces were finished to take home. For some reason we had thought we would be able to bring them right home, so we waited (Christian patiently, me not as much) until today to finally see them!

So, taadaaa!

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Here are our masterpieces! I love that though we were making the same shape, they turned out so differently. We both agree that Christian’s (on the right) is our favorite, but I also love mine (on the left). On the drive home we stopped at Trader Joe’s to get flowers and properly welcome them into our home.

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Here they are in full use! (Fun fact, I put my cardigan on the table to take this photo, with the metal design it was harder to see the swirly designs on the vases.) This was such a fun experience and I really hope to do it again. If you are in the New Orleans area I really recommend taking a class at YAYA’s, it was really fun and simple and it is a great organization that does a lot of work in the community.

 

-Alexis

Oktober Day Off

This Friday I took my first vacation day since starting my new job in July. I’ve been feeling low on moral and energy and thought it would be a nice way to perk myself up– and if definitely helped!

Not wanting to spend my day indoors and without plans (though those days can be wonderful, too), I found a few things happening in New Orleans and spent the day their with Christian.

As touristy as it is, I really love spending time in the French Quarter, so that was first on our list. A few of my co-workers taught me last year that if you park at Harrah’s Casino and spend 30 minutes gambling, your parking becomes “free.” This has become one of my favorite spots to park as a result, I go to a few cheap machines and enjoy some fruity beverages. The most money I end up spending is on tips.

After Harrah’s, we walked over to House of Blue’s New Orleans, a bar and restaurant that I’ve wanted to visit for awhile now. We didn’t want to spend too much time there, but it was really nice talking and listening to music. I also really enjoyed looking at all of the art and decorations– the outdoor bar was voodoo themed (I couldn’t get a good picture of it) and outside there was a hanging chandelier.

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After House of Blue’s, we headed across town to Oktoberfest. I wasn’t quite sure what to expect, but it was pretty fun! One of the things I saw first when coming into the festival was a cheese stand which… looking back I should have passed on, but I was caught up in the moment of beer and cheese.

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After drinking a literal liter of beer at Oktoberfest (seriously– look at how big that cup is!), stuffing ourselves with cheese and pizza, and listening to the chicken dance three times (I had no idea that this was an Oktoberfest/German song, but here’s a funny information piece if you’re interested), we headed to our next spot!

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One of my friends who lives in New Orleans had invited me to see them perform at Greetings, from Queer Mountain, an LGTBQ+ storytelling venue. This  week was loosely horror themed, though, as the woman in charge said, anything really goes as long as its about 8 minutes long. That night there were five performers who told stories ranging from wedding revenge to Tegan and Sara concerts to sickness to lesbian nail horror stories and so many more.

In college when I was in my second and third year, some fellow queer students created the Queer Creative Collective (QCC), where people were invited to read poetry, sing songs, or do anything else that was creative. They hosted it in their backyards and it was something I looked forward to every month– this really reminded me of that and I’ll definitely be back if I can!

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We ended the night back at Harrah’s where we put a few last dollars into the machine, I mostly sat and sipped hot chocolate, and then started the drive back to Baton Rouge. Overall it was a very successful mental health day and one of my favorites that I’ve spent in New Orleans in awhile. Mental health days are so important so hopefully everyone takes care of their mental well being and not just physical!

–Alexis

 

 

 

Purple Saturday Morning

Do you have a favorite tradition on the weekend?

Before moving to Baton Rouge I would have probably said sleeping in or watching television before getting out of bed. (These are still things I like to do.) But for the last year and a quarter, my answer is now the Saturday Red Stick Farmers Market.

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Both of my apartments have been a short walk away from the market, making it an even nicer tradition for me to go alone, with a friend, and now that Christian is here too, with them. More often then not I walk through the inside and outside tables without purchasing anything, but simply going through the market and seeing familiar booths, vendors, and music makes me feel like it’s really the weekend.

Some of my favorite booths are: the sunflower vendor, they sell individual and bouquets of sunflowers, Bocage Bee and Honey Co., who sell local honey, and all sorts of beeswax products including deodorant, candles, and lotion, and Feliciana’s Best Creamery, who sell the best chocolate milk I’ve ever had and always have nice stories about their cows and chickens, if you ask.

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With the changing seasons, it’s pretty common to suddenly see the fruit and vegetable sellers one week come with a certain product and the next all have different ones. This week, however, seemed to be… purple themed!

To my, Abigail, and Christian’s delight this weekend there were all sorts of purple produce! Here are just a few images of what they had:

Purple Peppers

Gold and purple peppers, in honor of LSU, one of Baton Rouge’s universities.

Purple Beans

Purple string beans!!

Purple EggplantAnd my personal favorite, eggplant! I know eggplant is typically seen in stores purple, but this set up made me really happy, especially the purple and white striped ones. When selecting which mini basket to take (I chose the ones with a bunch of little nubs and arms) the vendor asked me what I was going to name the purple/white one because “it will always taste better with a good name.”

Thank you for those who put on the Farmers Market! They’re so important to the community and a huge source of joy every week!

 

-Alexis

Hello!

Hello and welcome to my blog!

If  you’re here that probably means you are either someone stumbling around on the internet, or more likely, a kind family member or friend. Either way,  thank you and welcome to my experiment! I’ve been interested in having a blog for awhile as a way to share my thoughts, catalog and remember bits and pieces of my life, and work towards a happier me.

I hope that you enjoy your time here and have a good day!

 

-Alexis